pornography

Porn is for losers?

“Porn is for losers” says Playboy’s Pamela Anderson. What a minute! Isn’t this the same Pamela Anderson that got her start to fame and fortune through pornography? I understand that she first appeared on the cover of Playboy in October of 1989, at 22 years old. And before the age of 23, she earned the famed Playmate centrefold in February of 1990. Pamela has also had the dubious distinction of being on the cover more than any other celebrity — 14 times, including as recently as last year in January/February of 2016.

I am not saying that I don’t agree with some of Pamela Anderson’s claims that calls pornography “a public hazard of unprecedented seriousness” in an essay where she has teamed up with Rabbi Shmuley Boteach. However, it does seem also somewhat hypocritical that pornography is probably the reason she got the exposure she needed to pursue her modelling and acting career; a very lucrative career that now gives her the means to have her preaching platform against pornography.

I am often disgruntled these days by any blanket statement that labels anything all good or all bad. These kind of statements lack context, and can often breed shame and confusion. This is not helpful to people who actually suffer under these conditions, or to people who perhaps even thrive under the same umbrella. Yes, pornography can adversely affect individuals, couples and families. Pornography, however, can also be a wonderful way to enhance a couple’s dying sex life, for example. Both can be true.

The bottom line: pornography, much like the excessive use of the internet and devices, is not going away. What we should be focused on is not shaming people by labelling them losers, but rather providing guidelines, support and education. In the Anderson and Boteach essay they further go on to say that pornography is “a boring wasteful and dead-end outlet for people too lazy to reap the ample rewards of healthy sexuality.” Now pornography users are losers AND lazy.

Please people, use pornography sensibly and safely. Much like our fathers did with their magazine stash. Parents, educate your kids on the risks and limit their internet usage. But please, please, don’t shame people to go underground and compound their problems even further. See here for an excellent Ted Talk on shame and how it is contrary to love.

 

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